Domestic Violence and Women with Disabilities
Every day when John left for work, he locked Marie’s wheelchair in a closet and took the internet router and the portable phone. Mary had trouble moving about the house, couldn’t reach out for help, and couldn’t leave.
Larry keeps charge of Joan’s medications for anxiety, depression, and chronic pain. He gives Joan far less than is prescribed, so she lives in constant pain and fear. But Joan relies on Larry for her daily care and is afraid to tell anyone about not getting the medications.
Definition of Domestic Violence
Many people are confused about domestic violence, its causes, and why women stay in abusive relationships. Domestic violence is a pattern of intimidation, coercion, and violence. It includes everything the abuser has done and the threat of what he’ll do in the future. The entire goal of domestic violence is to obtain and maintain power and control over the victim. The pattern of abuse often increases in frequency and severity over time. Battering can be verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, or economic. An abused person can be of any age, race, class, culture, religion, occupation, or sexual orientation.
Sexual assault can be part of domestic violence or occur entirely by itself. It is any sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the recipient’s explicit consent. It can include sexual activities such as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.
Stalking behaviors are often also part of domestic violence. While legal definitions of stalking vary from one jurisdiction to another, a basic definition of stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.
Women with Disabilities Are More Vulnerable to Domestic Violence
Research indicates that women with disabilities are more likely to suffer domestic violence and sexual assault than women without disabilities. And women with disabilities report that abuse lasts longer and is more intense than women without disabilities.
Like other women, women with disabilities usually are abused by someone they know, such as a partner or family member. In addition, women with disabilities risk abuse by healthcare providers or caregivers. Caregivers can withhold medicine and assistive devices, such as wheelchairs or braces. They can also refuse to help with daily needs like bathing, dressing, or eating.
Reasons for Violence Against Women with Disabilities
Violence against women with disabilities happens because of attitudes towards women together with vulnerability from the conditions that result from the disability itself, such as:
- Being physically less capable of defending themselves
- Difficulty in reporting maltreatment due to the lack of accessible forms of communication
- Inaccessibility of information and counseling services due to barriers in the physical environment and due to the lack of accessible forms of communication (this is particularly concerning for women who are blind or low vision)
- Lower self-esteem due to not being seen as a woman but only as a person with a disability or, even worse—only as her disability
- A greater amount of dependence on other people for care
- Fear of reporting the abuse, as it might result in the breaking of bonds and loss of the care they may require
Domestic Violence Is Never the Fault of the Victim
Domestic and sexual assault, stalking, and neglect are never the victim’s fault. They are not based on stress, drugs, or alcohol. They are due to the active choice of the abuser to use violence or other intimidating tactics to control his victim.
Victims often stay with their abuser for many reasons, including economic, cultural, and fear of losing custody of the children. Perhaps most important, victims fear increased violence or death or if they leave. The most dangerous time for a victim is when she’s trying to leave. This may be due to the abuser feeling like he is losing control over his victim.
For women with disabilities, it can be even worse. If they are abused by someone they rely on to care for them, they may feel trapped.
Women who are blind or low vision have additional concerns related to their vision. One victim noted, “I realized that my vision was being used against me…(later) I learned about my vision and how to use it more efficiently. This restored my confidence.”
Help for Victims of Domestic Violence
Help is available. If possible, they can seek help from someone trusted, such as a doctor, family member, friend, neighbor, or clergy member. Help is also available from several national and state domestic and sexual violence organizations. Here are several links which can help.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is always open. Trained staff provides free referral services specific to intimate partner violence. The staff speaks English and Spanish; translators are available for 129 other languages. They offer crisis intervention; referrals to domestic violence; and other emergency shelters and programs, information, and support. They advise on shelters, advocacy and assistance, and social services programs.
NNEDV is an advocacy organization comprising state domestic violence coalitions, allied organizations, and individuals. The organization works closely with its members to understand the needs of domestic violence victims and programs and then voices those needs to national policymakers.
Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services empowers Deaf and Deaf-Blind survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and harassment to transform their lives while striving to change the beliefs and behaviors that foster and perpetuate violence. They provide comprehensive services to individuals and families, community education, and advocacy on systems and policy issues.
This is a program of the National Center for Victims of Crime. Through collaboration with local, state, and federal partners, the National Center advocates for stronger rights, protections, and services for crime victims; provides education, training, and evaluation; and is a trusted source of current information on victims’ issues.
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization and operates the hotline 24/7. The organization also runs programs to prevent sexual violence, assist survivors, and ensure that rapists are brought to justice. RAINN provides information on resources nationwide for survivors of rape, abuse, and incest.
by Leslie Malkin, B.A., J.D., Project Coordinator, New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence